tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post1206583965460942092..comments2024-03-28T20:17:04.492+08:00Comments on TOPAZ HORIZON: A loooong answer to the simple but complicated question: Should I have kids?Franceshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-37251631105243621202014-01-19T07:27:53.427+08:002014-01-19T07:27:53.427+08:00I want to print this post (so old school!) so that...I want to print this post (so old school!) so that I have something to show to people who kept wondering why I am single. LOL. I always say that I am complete on my own. Any addition is a blessing. :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-8737627588180610012014-01-18T22:13:36.626+08:002014-01-18T22:13:36.626+08:00Thanks, Mark, Chuching and Cess! =DThanks, Mark, Chuching and Cess! =DFranceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-31194998870129566632014-01-18T22:13:00.828+08:002014-01-18T22:13:00.828+08:00Same here! Becoming parents was so unexpected that...Same here! Becoming parents was so unexpected that my husband and I were reeling from the shock, the sleepless nights, the constant awareness, the love! It's amazing and exhausting. We miss our childless days too, like you, but we'd never ever want to be childless ever again! Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-11207681409924426062014-01-18T22:10:56.049+08:002014-01-18T22:10:56.049+08:00Well, most of us embrace it. Some people (and ther...Well, most of us embrace it. Some people (and there's sadly still a significant number of them out there) just run away from what they've done or don't step up to the plate, leaving ruined lives of poor children in their wake.Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-28578287228362887952014-01-18T22:09:21.976+08:002014-01-18T22:09:21.976+08:00That's why this post is on Topaz Horizon, not ...That's why this post is on Topaz Horizon, not on Topaz Mommy, because it's meant for childless/unmarried people =)Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-16332988575367625732014-01-18T22:08:25.872+08:002014-01-18T22:08:25.872+08:00Dude, I don't think it's for everyone eith...Dude, I don't think it's for everyone either. I mean, really, the world would be a much better place if only responsible, compassionate and selfless people had kids. But if that were the case, I don't think anyone would qualify. I don't think I'd qualify! I can still be so selfish sometimes.<br /><br />I totally agree with you that it's okay to be stupid, even hurtful, if you're the only party going to get hurt. But kids! To hurt kids! Man, that's like the most awful thing in the world. Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-71473417282743802342014-01-18T14:25:29.853+08:002014-01-18T14:25:29.853+08:00After reading your post, I saw this in facebook ht...After reading your post, I saw this in facebook http://www.huffingtonpost.com/stephanie-sprenger/5-things-id-really-like-people-with-no-kids-to-know_b_4572064.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000009.<br /><br />Anyway, I was 36 when I became a mother. It was not easy transition for my husband and I. For one thing, we are on our own. No babysitter, no relatives or helper. It was an eye opener. We missed the time when we were child-free. Now, I could not imagine our life without our son. We are talking about having another child. I turned 40 last month. I don't have much time. I would like to have another one but part of me is saying, one is enough. It is expensive to have a child. Like you, my childhood was not easy due poverty. I am also afraid of losing control of some part of my life that I just regained. Anyway, it is not easy to have a child but I would never want to lose my child no matter what....malorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09263359718316373392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-74899809841327085882014-01-18T07:47:38.532+08:002014-01-18T07:47:38.532+08:00Great, inspiring, honest piece! Great, inspiring, honest piece! Cess Lubaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02323691474602248860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-37523141095561367022014-01-18T00:04:19.703+08:002014-01-18T00:04:19.703+08:00This is why I love your blog! You are honest!
Ame...This is why I love your blog! You are honest!<br /><br />Amen to everything you said!chuchinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14240642841139697579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-48295400839772802442014-01-17T15:30:30.944+08:002014-01-17T15:30:30.944+08:00I LOVE the honesty in this post! Oh, Frances, you ...I LOVE the honesty in this post! Oh, Frances, you are so right about everything you said up there. I married late (I was already 33) because I too was so focused on my career and actually never planned to get married in the first place, or have kids for that matter. I wasn't really sure if I had what it takes to be a good mom. But, like you said, once your reality changes, you just embrace it and let it transform you. Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15627044365532768023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-73419595153762998682014-01-17T14:57:59.929+08:002014-01-17T14:57:59.929+08:00I so love this post!!!! (a lot of exclamation poin...I so love this post!!!! (a lot of exclamation points there... hahaha!) When I got pregnant with my eldest I was 24, am I ready that time? No because I really don't know what to expect, I am still at that stage wherein you know sarap pang lumabas labas and all, but as soon as I see my belly growing, it dawned on me, slowly but surely, that I am ready for this one, excited as well. I guess when I became a MOM, all of those times that I really want to go out, be with friends, go and have fun, were done for me. Having kids/children is also a RESPONSIBILITY, we are responsible for the well being of the lives we bring on this earth. Single ladies should read this too. grechiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13390054502339186214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-31095254359660066202014-01-17T14:37:45.193+08:002014-01-17T14:37:45.193+08:00I don't think kids and family life are for eve...I don't think kids and family life are for everyone. Some folks shouldn't and oughtn't have kids (for their sake and the little ones'). I've had bros who you wouldn't in your wildest dreams initially see as responsible dads and husbands who then assumed that role, by choice or accident, and will tell me now it's the best thing in the world and would punch anyone who disagrees. In fact my best friend, who I use to remember living in small apartment, driving a beat up Honda and not giving two cares about anything is now a career man, property owner, investor and married to a beautiful responsible and decent woman (far cry from all the ghetto hoes with no jobs and tons of drama he use to associate himself with) with two children (one he adopted from her, and one they brought into the world together). I couldn't believe it; I felt like a father and brother at the same time proud and jealous that he turned around from night to day...But then there are friends and acquaintances who started getting hitched early, looked like perfect couples, smart, got their acts together---like model family from when they're bf/gf, to their wedding, to initial family life...fantasy life we all drool over and wished we had. But then years later, atomic crash and all the nasty things you could think about comes out: cheating, nasty divorce, domestic violence, custody battle, and years later children come out all jacked up. The way I see it, whatever you decide make sure you really think about your decisions. Don't just wing it. It's one thing to jump into the water if the consequences of your actions will victimize you in the future. It's another in this case; don't bring an innocent third party into this world with your 'experiment', curiosity, pettiness, vanity ("Oh they're so cute aren't they? I want one!"---they're not pets or toys!) or plain stupidity. Entire innocent lives are at stake in the future. If you sign up for the job, make damn sure you finish it and do it right like you're getting paid to do it (it's at least an 18 year commitment, folks!) For irresponsible and ugly people like myself we owe to the world not to procreate and spread our genetics. But at least I know where I should be right? LOL And for people like me just an advice: you CAN enjoy baby-making without making babies. It's called using condoms. Too Young To Feel This Oldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13542270243500132894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-47359300529584383742014-01-17T09:11:53.723+08:002014-01-17T09:11:53.723+08:00What a very honest and beautiful post!What a very honest and beautiful post!Mark Sablanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12883960467845340918noreply@blogger.com