tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post2311575913467912959..comments2024-03-28T20:17:04.492+08:00Comments on TOPAZ HORIZON: Should you go forth and multiply? Methinks only if you're ready.Franceshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-73141573630018344632011-08-08T10:24:33.643+08:002011-08-08T10:24:33.643+08:00Thumbs up for this Frances. I was 18 when I had my...Thumbs up for this Frances. I was 18 when I had my first child. With my boyfriend forcing me to have the kid aborted, keeping her is the biggest decision I had. And I was 18. I gave up my dreams of becoming a graphic artist and just took a course my parents wanted to give my child a better future, because it ends up that me and her father doesnt really love each other. It wasn't easy and there are times I would look back and ask my what ifs. But I manage to go on with my life. A couple of months after I graduated, I got pregnant again by my boyfriend (now husband)then after learning how to love my culinary journey, I was forced to be a housewife. I'm only 23. I havent had the chance to earn money for myself but my kids need me more. But I guess motherhood made me a better person, maybe because it was for me. Marriage isnt always about love and happiness no? It's really hard. So i hope kids or single women would embrace their freedom at the moment. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13652343445722549889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-80142293221767068032011-08-05T22:26:06.324+08:002011-08-05T22:26:06.324+08:00WOW. So many reactions and stories. Thanks for sha...WOW. So many reactions and stories. Thanks for sharing your own experiences and thoughts!Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-72055660194695809482011-08-02T20:00:26.629+08:002011-08-02T20:00:26.629+08:00Well said. As I say to my single friends, it'...Well said. As I say to my single friends, it's the best time to know yourself so you can be prepared for whatever life brings you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00568454267354773075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-86859241571665897062011-08-02T13:46:58.351+08:002011-08-02T13:46:58.351+08:00Thanks for sharing Frances. very well said!:)Thanks for sharing Frances. very well said!:)Fayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01862032373381240310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-33631946777274938212011-08-02T12:41:23.595+08:002011-08-02T12:41:23.595+08:00I hear ya when you said that people should totally...I hear ya when you said that people should totally stop treating their kids as money machines. It is a selfish and twisted way of putting unwanted pressure on a child. It is counter-productive, and it makes no guarantee that the child will actually support the entire family when the day comes. I was raised hearing things like "get a good job, tapos ikaw naman magpaaral sa mga kapatid mo para makapahinga na papa mo." in an obligatory tone like i had no choice. It felt like i was being conned by my very own mother. But I've no more ill feelings. :)Gorabelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02246341837049114315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-69199495987057114642011-08-02T11:49:19.537+08:002011-08-02T11:49:19.537+08:00I agree. I didn't plan my pregnancy and would&...I agree. I didn't plan my pregnancy and would've done things differently, if given the chance. Read my blogpost: http://wonderwomanrises.blogspot.com/2011/08/truth-about-unplanned-motherhood.htmlWonder Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07528508775219089961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-83271571940083340952011-08-02T11:37:33.512+08:002011-08-02T11:37:33.512+08:00OH. SO. TRUE! Nicely written, Frances! <3OH. SO. TRUE! Nicely written, Frances! <3Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10753677483197173215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-34750400068626944912011-08-01T23:18:56.226+08:002011-08-01T23:18:56.226+08:00Getting married and having kids/adoption are the b...Getting married and having kids/adoption are the biggest decision a woman will have in her lifetime; so don't rush ladies because FYI: There's no turning back!AJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05550752966966839363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-64616587139504069232011-08-01T23:13:18.303+08:002011-08-01T23:13:18.303+08:00Great post Frances. I wasn't as brave as you. ...Great post Frances. I wasn't as brave as you. I followed what my parents wanted me to take back in college. However, as soon as I gave them my diploma that was the end of it. I still pursued the work I wanted to take. So even if I am a licensed PT, I am now working and have taken masters in finance. So I guess I am halfway there. I promised myself I will let my son be. I will welcome with open arms his crazy ideas someday. I completely agree with everything you said in the post. =)earthgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13435457333541025621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-65825927696762921772011-08-01T16:43:28.259+08:002011-08-01T16:43:28.259+08:00Pooh, I love this post, Miss Frances! I'm so j...Pooh, I love this post, Miss Frances! I'm so jealous! You got to do Creative Writing in college! (I mean, I love being a doctor, but I still wonder what would have happened to me if I ended up doing that. Oh, but I loved this post... Thank you. Very well said.Eloisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18232032711708917885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-42250662432826937312011-08-01T16:03:37.421+08:002011-08-01T16:03:37.421+08:00Very well said, Ms. Frances, Incidentally, I'm...Very well said, Ms. Frances, Incidentally, I'm having the same issues right now. I quit being in an 8-5 corporate job almost four months ago and am now a freelance writer, something I've been dreaming of doing since I was in third grade. My mom (a government employee for the last 20+ years) tells me again (and again!) to pursue a career with the government, for its so-called "stability". Gets on my nerves sometimes. And after one year of being married, everyone's been more excited than us to see our babies. I wrote about it in my blog too (http://eaturbanana.blogspot.com/2011/07/10-not-so-right-but-not-entirely-wrong.html)<br /><br />More power to you and your family. God bless you. =)kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14479619542860626691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-86354626240182713692011-08-01T15:41:13.503+08:002011-08-01T15:41:13.503+08:00i can relate...i am a bs stat grad who works in an...i can relate...i am a bs stat grad who works in an insurance company...however, instead of being an actuary, i made a detour working for the ad industry ... instead of being a number cruncher i honed my creative side in marketing financial services ... if i had gone to the path of an actuary or an IT professional, i would be earning oodles more money but i know i wouldnt be as happy or contented with what i am doing...<br /><br />i married at 29, old enough to fully enjoy my youth, my resources and my time while also providing substantial support to my parents and siblings...since i feel happy i can also impart happiness to my son and not project my frustrated dreams on himwenggayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11237865511108406378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-60508844576548114892011-08-01T15:29:56.658+08:002011-08-01T15:29:56.658+08:00Climb every mountain...thanks for quoting from the...Climb every mountain...thanks for quoting from the Sound of Music, one of my favorite movies of all time :)<br />I have to say, I do wish I could've done some things differently, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that I have a lot of regrets in life. Am I contradicting myself? Maybe :)<br />I guess it's true what the Desiderata says... that the universe is unfolding as it should.<br />I'm glad I visited your blog. A lot of interesting reads here. I will be here often, you can count on that :)Pepperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03213414455220310463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-32398493684635858772011-08-01T14:47:59.799+08:002011-08-01T14:47:59.799+08:00amen frances! amen! if there is one thing that i...amen frances! amen! if there is one thing that i'm forever grateful for is that my mom kept on reminding me to live my life and not settle down just yet. when i was growing up i was so frustrated with her for telling me to wait until i get into a relationship. she kept on upping the years. first, it was after highschool, then college, then when i'm working. i just now realized that she was saying this so that i can live my life and discover myself before getting married and settling down. now that i have a family of my own, i can see where she was coming from.clarissahanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16088043856620393450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-15270802799787914652011-08-01T14:05:50.660+08:002011-08-01T14:05:50.660+08:00thank you for this very inspiring post, this sure ...thank you for this very inspiring post, this sure would be a lot of help making women out there realize the importance of being ready when they really decide to settle down and have kids and to really just enjoy their young lives without pressuring themselves too muchcheerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17879947234286704351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-74743397591550110642011-08-01T13:21:33.205+08:002011-08-01T13:21:33.205+08:00Hihi, I also want to be able to give all my love t...Hihi, I also want to be able to give all my love to a loving family but for now it's all about me and making myself the best version of me. Love this post (as always!), F! And welcome back! Can't wait for your Bali stories!Tara Cabullohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01812821442202543078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-58568520906833547452011-08-01T12:15:24.632+08:002011-08-01T12:15:24.632+08:00So true! I remember wishing I would be married by ...So true! I remember wishing I would be married by 24. Soooo glad that didn't happen. Instead I spent my twenties proving to myself that I could be successful and financially independent in my own right. Now that I'm a SAHM, I can say I don't have any regrets. And if the day comes when I need to step up and support our family, I know I could.The Missushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08023555413394047386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-31599379203922972872011-08-01T12:11:53.824+08:002011-08-01T12:11:53.824+08:00Bravo! *clap! clap! clap!*Bravo! *clap! clap! clap!*A Loopy Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12350796263296138071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-75726581568593798722011-08-01T12:03:26.097+08:002011-08-01T12:03:26.097+08:00You're right about your posts resonating with ...You're right about your posts resonating with a lot of people. I can relate to a lot of things you said. Thank you for the wonderful post!Meedgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01799761465387152960noreply@blogger.com