tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post5760496851373368123..comments2024-03-29T17:50:21.324+08:00Comments on TOPAZ HORIZON: Grief is a curious thingFranceshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-43063912187261301012016-09-03T02:42:44.244+08:002016-09-03T02:42:44.244+08:00Lost my Dad on October 2012. I miss him everyday. ...Lost my Dad on October 2012. I miss him everyday. Unfortunately, he never met my son. It would have been lovely watching him teach my son about cars, soorts and music since they both have the same interests. If only I could have one more day to spend with Dad just so I can talk to him and be assured that I am doing things right.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02966919126688904527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-31984930043240382462012-12-13T15:21:17.392+08:002012-12-13T15:21:17.392+08:00My husband and I lost our would-have-been first ba...My husband and I lost our would-have-been first baby (and first grandchild in both families!) last September of this year. I agree with you that grief is a curious thing. I didn't understand it until I experienced it first hand. I'm still healing from the tragedy. I'm only consoled by the fact that our baby boy is now an angel in heaven and God has better plans for my husband and me. :) edelweizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13580202879787530312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-24594529200093153972012-09-13T16:48:31.224+08:002012-09-13T16:48:31.224+08:00Wish I couldn't relate but I do... *hugs* - Tr...Wish I couldn't relate but I do... *hugs* - TrishRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-32314344129642235362012-09-11T10:55:06.585+08:002012-09-11T10:55:06.585+08:00I'm so sorry for your loss. It's such a hu...I'm so sorry for your loss. It's such a huge black hole, no? You know, my mama died the exact same way she wanted to, too! She always said she didn't want to die when she too old because, like your dad, she didn't want to be a burden and ayaw niya na magkasakit siya. She said, "I want to die fast but ayoko ng accident kasi ayoko masira mukha ko." Haha, maganda kasi si mama. She also always said she wanted to die at home. She got all that she wanted! She choked on her chocolate milk, had an asthma attack. It was done in 15 minutes. She died in her bedroom. Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-63923256812762020892012-09-10T14:18:35.793+08:002012-09-10T14:18:35.793+08:00Hi, Frances. I just lost my dad last July 17. Ex...Hi, Frances. I just lost my dad last July 17. Exactly 7 days after my brother and I celebrated our birthdays. It was the first time we celebrated with our mom too, who came who retired from work in Saudi and came home last April, for good. At the time, she was so busy fixing the house, we never had time to go out as a family. 5 days before dad died, I was sick with pneumonia and I had no yaya so mom and dad, volunteered to look after their newest apo. (I'm the only child who no longer lives in the family home). I did not know then that that was already the last few days we will together. The day before he died, he even volunteered to drive me and mom to the bank but we declined since it's very near the house. He got sort of "tampo" and said, "Bahala kayo baka ma holdap kayo." The day he died, I just said my usual goodbye to him, he thought I was not yet supposed to be back from my sick leave although at the time, my backside started to hurt real bad, my mom insisted I take another sick leave but I was persistent to report back to work. As I was about to enter the office building, I got the call from my brother that they were in the hospital, reviving my dad. I did not make it back in time to say a proper goodbye. So much coincidences, so much regret. But then, we find comfort in assuring ourselves that He is with God now and he loved us enough not to be a burden financially and emotionally.(C.O.D was cardio-pulmonary arrest. We were told that if he survived, there's no guarantee of a normal life). God granted his wish that he will not live past 65. He always mentioned before that he would not want to live past 65 in order not to be a burden. He's supposed to turn 66 on December. Liz of Manilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07700232917514757696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-44682854402200619162012-09-09T01:35:39.551+08:002012-09-09T01:35:39.551+08:00Hi Frances, This is beautiful. My father passed a...Hi Frances, This is beautiful. My father passed away 9 mos ago yesterday. I am still grieving. I still think about him daily. You just made me cry...malorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09263359718316373392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-57430568311956126802012-09-06T17:11:17.519+08:002012-09-06T17:11:17.519+08:00I'm sorry you lost your daddy. Hugs!
And tha...I'm sorry you lost your daddy. Hugs! <br /><br />And thanks for dropping by here =)Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-30347579347498386312012-09-06T17:03:25.127+08:002012-09-06T17:03:25.127+08:00Ya, I also used to make away Mama all the time. Ma...Ya, I also used to make away Mama all the time. Masyado kasi siya mabait at mapagbigay so lagi ko siyang pinapagalitan. But now I wish I had just let her be. If giving and sharing gave her so much joy, then I shuld've left her alone. Oh well. Sa huli ang pagsisisi. So love your mom, love your sister! We never know how much time is left to us!Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-35258420819364901592012-09-06T15:39:49.408+08:002012-09-06T15:39:49.408+08:00Hi! I'm 33. Just lost my dad this year (March)...Hi! I'm 33. Just lost my dad this year (March) and it's his birthday today. And your article just makes me want to break down and bawl. I guess it's really hard at first because everything seems to remind you of the loved one you lost. You are right saying that one can only understand grief when one experiences it. I never knew what "crushing pain" meant until I lost my dad. Today is a BOOM day, being his birthday, so it's been a struggle getting through this day. I knew I should have stayed on Topaz Mommy. (Kidding!) But, still, I am glad I chanced by here. You are a terrific writer. A wonderful mom. And, I'm sure your mom would have agreed that you are a great daughter. Gie Strangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14181319518861434211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-76721194421226481072012-09-05T11:03:27.814+08:002012-09-05T11:03:27.814+08:00i grew up without knowing my dad...whenever i woul...i grew up without knowing my dad...whenever i would ask mom about it, she'll just say he's dead..that's it. i dunno what happened between them but i dont want to stress my mom by asking questions pa. reading your post made me cry. i cant imagine life not being able to meet my dad tas losing a mom, i will surely go crazy. mom and i argue often, but i love her to bits. she may not be perfect, but she's perfect for me and my sis (my half sister).<br /><br />hugs Frances!<br /><br />Iambrigittehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785122038030738692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-76745861219695227472012-09-04T01:14:28.211+08:002012-09-04T01:14:28.211+08:00Your comment made me cry. Just because you didn...Your comment made me cry. Just because you didn't really know him doesn't mean you have no right to miss him =( How terrible to lose a father so young! <br /><br />I've had similar dreams. Parang ayaw mo magising, no? Hugs, Deepa!Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-90127550587393475732012-09-04T01:12:32.860+08:002012-09-04T01:12:32.860+08:00Thanks for reading my blog and thank you for that ...Thanks for reading my blog and thank you for that beautiful quote. Hugs to you, too!Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-82241134322578278212012-09-04T01:11:52.597+08:002012-09-04T01:11:52.597+08:00Thank God your dad lived and lives! Hug him every ...Thank God your dad lived and lives! Hug him every day! =)Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-27530055888059109642012-09-03T19:10:26.343+08:002012-09-03T19:10:26.343+08:00Ditto. I always dread the month of September as so...Ditto. I always dread the month of September as something always bad happens...every single year. And last year this month, my dad died. His 1st Death Anniversary is coming up so I've been having my "drama moments" lately. The first two months after he died, I was crying everyday. I know he is now in heaven and is enjoying his rewards so I just remind myself of that. I know he is happy now. I am grateful to God that we had a good relationship with my dad. No days were wasted. No regrets. Just thankful for his life. I really miss him though. Miss him so much it hurts. Kumikirot ang puso. Ganun. <br /><br />Reahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06588442272631622937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-30908075960296213212012-09-03T16:39:43.792+08:002012-09-03T16:39:43.792+08:00Your story about seeing your Mama again reminded m...Your story about seeing your Mama again reminded me of a dream I had recently about my dad, who died when I was three years old. In the dream, I got into a car that picked me up from work and my dad was inside with this big smile. We hugged and I said "How is this possible? You died!" and he just smiled and said, "No, that's just what you thought, I've been waiting for you all this time, and now we're going to go pick your mom up and tell her the great news. She's going to be so happy!" I knew it was impossible, but it felt so real; it felt so good to be hugged by my dad and I was just so happy. I woke up sobbing because I didn't want it to end. <br /><br />I never really knew him but I've mourned and missed him all the same. I can't imagine the grief of having a life with your mom, then losing her. :( Deepahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08637677639226076105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-12819478168169945132012-09-03T14:33:29.782+08:002012-09-03T14:33:29.782+08:00What a beautiful post, and immensely sad. :(
To th...What a beautiful post, and immensely sad. :(<br />To the commenter about the doppelgangers/lookalikes: my lola passed away this April. At the wake I was standing near her coffin when the door entered and her cousin walked inside. The thing was her cousin looked exactly like her 20 years ago. My heart just stopped, it was crazy. And I had this thought in my head that "see, see, she's OK! This is all a big mistake! she's alive!" Parang logic completely deserted me at that moment. Ganun nga ata talaga grieving. :(Katrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14580930796678684488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-33838900971341343792012-09-02T23:52:56.313+08:002012-09-02T23:52:56.313+08:00Congratulations, Jackie!!! =) Yes, appreciate our ...Congratulations, Jackie!!! =) Yes, appreciate our loved ones while they're still around!Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-55366235513489181252012-09-02T22:16:15.876+08:002012-09-02T22:16:15.876+08:00Actually, I don't really remember when this ha...Actually, I don't really remember when this happened. I knew I wasn't pregnant (I ran across the street) so it must be before or after I had Vito. Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762850601924680898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-20632863756578924752012-09-02T22:14:28.554+08:002012-09-02T22:14:28.554+08:00I seriously don't know what to say but I just ...I seriously don't know what to say but I just want to drop you a message to let you know that I was touched by what you wrote. I can't describe the devastation that I felt last Thursday when I thought I already lost Alvin so I can just imagine what you felt when you're mama died. I had goosebumps when I read the last part of your post. <br /><br />Hugs to you Frances!fleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06501753200409289174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-27934821603418599062012-09-02T21:18:58.019+08:002012-09-02T21:18:58.019+08:00*Hug*
I remember visiting my brother's grave ...*Hug*<br /><br />I remember visiting my brother's grave with my parents. My dad was quiet the entire time. Right after that, we went straight to see his grandson.Tishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01443119535011851603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-14508073115906886522012-09-02T18:12:22.734+08:002012-09-02T18:12:22.734+08:00My dad passed away 6.5 years ago. what ive been fe...My dad passed away 6.5 years ago. what ive been feeling all these years you were able to articulately condense in one post. Beautifully written! I have been comforting myself with this line -- "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal." <br />You never really get over a loved one's death, you learn to deal and live with it in the best and happiest way you possibly can.<br />I'm a regular reader of your blog and this is my first comment. Thanks for this particularly beautiful post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867777091275039878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-16688908122432292772012-09-02T15:09:18.765+08:002012-09-02T15:09:18.765+08:00This post made me cry :(This post made me cry :(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16390226423804018834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-73566483287523684992012-09-02T14:36:09.114+08:002012-09-02T14:36:09.114+08:00I lost my favorite uncle 10 years ago and it still...I lost my favorite uncle 10 years ago and it still hurts... I don't think I'll get over it completely... <br /><br />Can't imagine losing another loved one again. I know it's inevitable. But I just don't wanna think about it. :(kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14479619542860626691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-41013843195061992212012-09-02T13:27:24.258+08:002012-09-02T13:27:24.258+08:00Oh my. This just about broke my heart. I almost lo...Oh my. This just about broke my heart. I almost lost my dad 5 years ago from a heart attack and I was devastated. How much more if he didn't survive his attack?<br /><br /><br />*Hugs*Jillsabshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14049665679120861653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28615751.post-1288173837269201822012-09-02T11:27:43.628+08:002012-09-02T11:27:43.628+08:00Reading this post of yours 6 days after I give bir...Reading this post of yours 6 days after I give birth makes me cry twice. Weird that the thought of losing the people even strangers (Sec. Robredo, made me cry so much a fesw days negore I gave birth) has intensified even more now. I am more appreciative of family & people that matter which is a good thing. *hugs*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13728282297224568604noreply@blogger.com