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To be very honest, meals—especially dinner—are just the worst time for me as a parent. I tried my hardest to serve healthy meals, spent a few hours over the stove cooking, and then eating time arrives and it's a disaster! Either someone will complain about the food not being their favorite, or that they're not hungry, or that the food is yucky without even tasting it, or insist they'll just eat a few bites before asking for ice cream or for me to cook something else.

Then there's the fact that as parents, we have to not just feed them, we also have to teach them good manners like don't talk when your mouth is full, chew with your mouth closed, sit properly, don't spit, use your napkin, use your spoon and fork, don't climb on the table, stop walking around, don't eat from your brother's plate, stop killing each other!!! You know, stuff like that.

I have lost my temper many times. You don't tell someone who cooked good food to cook something else. My husband has also gotten angry at the kids. If my issue is the food, his issue is the manners. Meal times became a battleground and we just weren't enjoying eating together anymore.

I don't think there's a good parent anywhere who enjoys getting mad at their kids. Vince and I hate getting mad at our kids, especially at meal times, when we should be savoring our blessings of food and family! So Vince and I had many talks on how we can improve meal times. We tried this, we did that, we had to tweak rules, throw out what didn't work, and added new ideas we picked from other parents. Now, meal times are so much better. We are enjoying our meals again. Vince and I are more relaxed, the kids are happier, too. Best of all, everyone's eating!

Here are our 10 tips for making meal times easy for the family:
1. Serve everyone's favorite food.
Not every day, of course, but what's wrong with giving everyone something they like now and then? What we did is we listed down everything everyone liked. Tinolang manok, nilagang baboy, pansit, pork chops, tocino, hotdogs, fish fingers, chicken nuggets, spaghetti, rellenong bangus, scrambled eggs, pizza, and fried chicken. Then we create a meal plan based on that list.


2. Let them do the grocery with you.
I don't like doing the grocery with my kids because stuff like chocolates, chips and candy find their way in the cart. But I also found that the kids get excited about food when they see them before they become ulam. When they help pick out the vegetables, for example, they're more willing to eat it because they feel like they picked it so they have an obligation to eat it hahaha.

3. Serve dessert at snack time.
I used to offer dessert after every meal. It was my prize for finishing their food or eating their veggies. The problem is what happens when one child doesn't finish his food? He gets really upset because his brothers get to eat dessert. The whole thing just dissolves into a terrible tantrum. So no dessert after meals! I found that merienda time is the best time for sweets, cakes, ice cream and chips. They get to enjoy their sweets and snacks, and there's no stressful contests at meal times.

4. Cook in big batches.
Big batches save time, money and mommy's sanity. Do it. When I cook every meal, I'm more stressed out and rushed and definitely exhausted and hungry when it's time to eat. I do not have patience for any whining at the table when I feel like that. So I cook a lot then reheat.


5. Be creative with leftovers.
The problem nga lang with big batches of food is nakakasawa siya. So you recook them in a different way. Leftover spaghetti sauce is tomorrow's pizza pan de sal sauce. Adobong wala ng sabaw becomes crispy adobo flakes-silog. Chopsuey veggies will taste great in pansit!

6. Let the kids cook.
Oh yes, the easiest way to make them eat their dinner is to let them cook it! They get excited and they prepare it just the way they want it, and then they gobble it all up!


7. Try canned and frozen food.
This is for your sanity. Once in a while, you'll need to go for convenience. Instead of making your own spaghetti sauce, try opening a can. Instead of washing, removing stems, and slicing mushrooms, use a can of sliced ones. Instead of peeling and cutting fresh fruit for dessert, try a can of chilled peaches or lychees. All are delicious, easy to prepare, saves you time, and makes you relaxed!


8. Give the kids small servings.
I got this tip from a mommy nutritionist. Kids get overwhelmed daw when they see a full plate. They go, "I can't eat all of that! I'm not hungry!" What's best is to give them a little bit of everything, tell them just have a taste of this and that, no pressure. If they want more, then you can just keep adding food. But if they don't want more, then no food is wasted.


9. Give them healthy choices.
My kids' favorite food is always fried and oily. Their pediatrician says that's okay because my kids are naturally skinny and super likot so they can afford to eat lotsa fatty food. Still, it's good to add veggies or soup as a side dish to their fried food!


10. Always make meals a fun time.
Easier said than done but we try by talking about their day, sharing jokes. We try not to talk about serious stuff at the table. And we also really try not to lose our temper when drinks get spilled, food falls on the floor, and feet find their way on the table. We try! And we've improved a lot! Hooray!

I hope our suggestions helped! If you have more ideas, please do share in the comments below. We parents need to help each other in this great adventure of raising happy, healthy kids!

For more cooking tips and delicious recipes, like Jolly's Facebook page, Jolly Eats.

I wanted to do a Frances Finds series for the longest time because I get so many products. Thanks, everyone, for your generosity! A lot of them find their way on my Instagram, and I thought that was enough. But some of the brands that I'm friendly with said Instagram is not Google-able. So even though IG and Snapchat are hotter than blogs these days, the content featured there can't be Googled so... may silbi pa pala ang blogs hahaha.

So let's do Frances Finds every month. Maybe even twice or thrice a month since I really get a lot of goodies. For this month, I'll tell you all about our breakfasts.

Kopiko Kopiccino
If you follow me on Instagram or if you've reading this blog for a while, you'd know I like instant coffee a lot. I like brewed coffee a lot, too, but gone are the days when mornings were meditative moments of freshly ground coffee beans percolating in the coffee maker. With three little kids up starting at the crack of dawn, I need my coffee instant! Hence, Kopiko Kopiccino.

I've been drinking this for 3 years na yata. I've tried other brands but I keep coming back to this one. Masarap siya, guys. Creamy, sweet, foamy, with a touch of bittersweet chocolate. It's sooo good!

Napansin yata ng Kopiko na love ko 'tong kape nila because they sent me a big box of sachets. Like, a year's supply! I'm so happy! Thank you, Kopiko! A mother needs all the help she can get to survive the day and you just sent me hundreds of days!

Quaker Oats
Our favorite is the Instant Oatmeal with Milk. Yes, instant again! Until you've walked a mile in my... er, with my barefoot feet, don't judge. I love instant everything! I do slow cooking every day anyway (fast food on weekends, though) so for the other aspects of homemaking that's been made more efficient by technology, I welcome them with loving and grateful arms. Quaker Oats Instant Oatmeal with Milk, we love you!


Quaker Oats sent us their other instant variants—oatmeal with fruit and nuts, with chocolate, and the old-fashioned, you-have-to-cook-it whole grain rolled oats.

I've tried them and food is food and all food is good, but I still prefer the milk one. It's perfect. These new ones, I'm still trying to understand. Anyone tried them? They're actually okay naman. I guess hindi pa ako sanay sa lasa nila. Who has a different experience?

Tang
I grew up on Tang. I love Tang orange juice so much that when I finally became rich enough to buy real freshly-squeezed orange juice, grabe, hindi pala masarap ang freshly-squeezed OJ! Ang asim! At may konti pang pakla na aftertaste. Yack. But now, kaya ko na siyang inumin. In the words of the mayayaman kong friends, my taste has become sophisticated. Hindi ko lang maamin na mas gusto ko pa rin ang instant orange juice! Tang forever!


I especially love it that Tang has lots of new flavors now. There's mango, pineapple, calamansi, grape, strawberry, lemon and melon. Our family favorite is mango. Super good! We also like dalandan. Para siyang orange juice but mas malumanay ang flavor. Very good. My own favorite is the melon flavor. Kulang na lang grated melon and it tastes just like real melon juice served on a hot summer day in a plastic bag! I love all the flavors actually because they all taste like the real thing... but better.

I also like the commercial of Tang, the one that advocates for no judging of parents.



Judgmental people is one of the reasons mommy blogging lost its appeal to me. I got so much hate because I posted a photo of my kids getting NIDO milk or eating chocolate or enjoying McDo. At first, I didn't mind. Hindi naman kayo ang nagpapakain ng mga anak ko so wag niyo pakialaman ang kinakain nila. But after a while, it gets to you. I know I'm a good mom. I'll never win Mom of the Year, but no mother in all the world can love my boys as much as I do, and that makes me the best mommy in the world to them. That's good enough for me!

And that's my first Frances Finds! Breakfast food! How about you? What grocery goodies do you love for breakfast? Please share para ma-try namin ng kids ko. Thanks!

I'm so thrilled about this month's Topaz Talks because I get to share with you, my dear Loyal Readers, two of the most hardworking mothers I know. Meet Stacey Lato and Nichole Mercado, sisters, stylistas, and the women behind the brand for all things cute and chic, Honeycomb Children's Clothing.


Honeycomb is all about fun and stylish clothes for kids 9 months to 7 years old. The styles are inspired by Nikki and Stacey's own kids, their love for fashion, and the shopping they do all over the world. But the clothes aren't just all about looking good, they feel good, too. Comfortable and durable, these outfits will be enjoyed by kids whether at playtime or at fancy affairs.

Today, I have a little chat with Nikki and Stacey so we can get a little peek into their lives as moms in fashion retail. Although Nikki is my good friend, we hardly ever talk about work! For example, although I celebrated Nikki's business venture last year, I actually didn't know why she did it. I just simply accepted it as part of the amazing things my amazing friend does. I really ought to set aside time from my crazy kids and spend an afternoon with my friends again! Our lives are passing by so fast and I'm not fully aware of what's happening in their lives!

Anyway, here's my little chat with these inspiring women. Listen in!
What I love about being a working mom is the life balance. I have time with my child and my adult time, too. I find that working allows me to maintain and nurture my sense of self.