Sunday, April 20, 2025

Our After-School Game Plan

In our family, we do presentations. For example, our sons presented their report cards, how they got their grades, their goals for the last quarter of the school year, and their proposal on how we (parents, brothers) can help them reach their goals. 

Here's another one, which I'm sharing with my mommy readers! This is my presentation - an after-school game plan. The boys are aware of this, but since we've never talked about it (just me and their father nagging them forever), the boys don't really follow. So we all gathered round for a quick pow-wow, I made my presentation, and got everyone to agree with me!

Let's go over it: 




My sons always forget to unpack! This really upset me because we forget to wash their lunchboxes and water bottles, we trip over their shoes, and their uniforms and socks are strewn all over their bedroom! I swear they were better at unpacking when they were preschoolers (yes, I'm grumbling).


My sons know how to cook so they can really take over dinner prep. I get home at around 6:50 to 7:15 so I'm usually too tired to cook. My husband usually cooks, but sometimes he has work meetings that go on till 7 so the boys must take over this task. 



My sons bring their gadgets to the bathroom to sing. They love to sing musicals in the shower! They protested this slide haha so I said they need to find a compromise. Their Papa suggested Bluetooth speakers. I really don't like it when they have gadgets in the bathroom. Aside from accidentally getting their gadgets wet, I'm also paranoid about people hacking their cameras, and one of my singing sons will be in the shower and... I shudder to think about it. 




For this part, we discussed (1st quote) how these tasks don't actually take a lot of time. Just minutes every day saves us time and resentment. And to avoid feeling resentful, (2nd quote) we just need to focus on ourselves and our tasks. We shouldn't look at what the others are not doing, or we shouldn't think, "Hey, I'm washing more dishes than him," and neither should we assume that someone is intentionally not doing their chores. We can only control our actions, our thoughts, and our feelings. And that's what matters (3rd quote) - self-discipline! Doing our individual parts helps the whole!  

That's it! Just a 5-minute presentation and a little discussion, and we were all in agreement. No nagging, no arguing. Just a peaceful way to remind my sons of their duties, and a way for me and their Papa to let them know that we have goals, too, and we need their help because if all our time is spent on cooking and cleaning, then we won't have time and energy to make our dreams come true! When they realized we needed their help, they were willing to do their part. So hooray!

I hope this helps you, mamas! 

Sunday, April 13, 2025

Brunch at Antonio’s PGA Cars



When your calendar is usually a jumble of Zoom meetings, school pick-ups, grocery runs, and deadlines, an invite to brunch can feel like a mini-vacation. But this wasn’t just any brunch. This was brunch at Antonio’s PGA Cars—where luxury meets leisure in the most delicious way possible.

Yes, you read that right. Antonio’s, the beloved Tagaytay institution known for its impeccable cuisine and elegant ambiance, has rolled into the city and found an unlikely home: inside the PGA Cars showroom right along EDSA Greenhills. I know, I know—EDSA?! But the moment you step inside, the noise of the world melts away. It’s calm, it’s chic, it’s shockingly serene for a space located at one of Metro Manila’s busiest roads. And did I mention there’s parking? Lots of it. (A mom’s dream.)

I had the joy of sharing the table with some truly inspiring women who juggle businesses, kids, passion projects, and more—Ginger Arboleda, Mansy Abesamis, Pattie Poniente, Dara David Roa, and Kat D. What a treat to take a breather with women who get it—the hustle, the heart, the delicate dance of ambition and gentleness. We swapped stories, laughed (a lot), and yes, planned future catch-ups because that’s what happens when good food meets great company.

 
This beautiful morning was hosted by the effortlessly stylish Vanna Garcia and brought together by the dynamic Emm Sulit of Game Changer agency. The setting was stunning, the conversations were soul-filling, and the food? Let me just say—it was worth waking up early on a weekend, blow-drying my hair, and slapping on makeup for!

We started with Octopus Croquettes—crispy on the outside, tender on the inside, like a love letter from the sea. Then came the Raclette, bubbling and golden, which went perfectly with the croquettes.


The Porchetta Sandwich was rich and indulgent, while the Pomodoro balanced it out with its fresh, comforting simplicity. 


The Gratinated Portabello? A mushroom lover’s dream. The Beef ala Planch was smoky, tender, and just the right kind of hearty. 


And of course, no Antonio’s experience is complete without a sweet ending: the Pistachio Cannoli was delicate and delightful, and the Basque Cheesecake—heavenly. All of this was enjoyed with strong, delicious coffee and a little sparkle courtesy of some chilled white wine—because why not?


What I love about Antonio’s PGA Cars is that it doesn’t try too hard. Well, it doesn’t need to. Yes, you’re surrounded by gleaming Audis and sleek Porsches, but the vibe? Surprisingly warm and welcoming. Open from 9 AM to 11 PM, it’s the kind of place where you can have a power breakfast meeting at 10, a romantic date night at 8, or a solo coffee-and-journal moment somewhere in between. No reservations needed, just walk in like you belong (because you do, mama).

Just be warned: with all those shiny cars quietly whispering your name, you might be tempted to leave with dessert and a new ride.

So if you’re a working woman craving a quick escape without leaving the city—or a mama looking for a little weekday sparkle—consider this your sign. Drop by Antonio’s PGA Cars. Because luxury doesn't always mean loud, and sometimes, the best kind of power move is taking a pause with people who fill your cup.

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Thursday, April 10, 2025

Keeping Everyone Online and In Touch: Top Tips for Heads of the Family


Hi, everyone! Let's talk about... Keeping everyone online and in touch!

Despite how interconnected everyone’s ways of life are thanks to devices like smartphones, it may still be hard to keep in touch in the ways that you need to—especially when it comes to your family. All the same, this is one of the most critical responsibilities for heads of the family, for example when it comes to work-from-home schedules or ensuring that kids can stream their lessons without interruptions. And now that the digital world has become the backbone of communication, education, and entertainment, reliable connectivity is more crucial than ever.

Parents, grandparents, and guardians of the family typically have to deal with problems like bandwidth bottlenecks, the high costs of utilities, and ensuring that everyone in the household has all the necessary resources for work or school. If this responsibility falls on you in any way, it will surely take some careful planning and a clear understanding of the options available to you.

To that end, here are some practical and actionable tips to keep your household connected and in sync, no matter what comes your way:

Choose the Right Data Plan

Whenever any of your family members is on the move, staying connected can be just as important as having a reliable connection at home. If anyone expects to stream videos during long car rides, check emails, or attend online classes on the go, the right data plan will be essential for meeting everyone’s needs without breaking the bank.

Start by assessing your family’s usage habits. Heavy streamers, gamers, and video callers may require more generous plans, while occasional web browsing or social media use will match smaller, more economical options.

Prepaid plans provide a flexible and cost-effective solution for families. They’ll help control spending and avoid surprises on the family’s bills. Many prepaid options, like the ones offered by Maya, also offer features that maximize value, for example, plans that allow you to load with cashback. This allows you to save money while ensuring that you can recharge whenever needed. With the right plan, you can keep everyone in your family online, no matter where you are.

Prioritize Reliable Internet Service

Your home internet connection is no longer a mere utility, but the lifeline that keeps your household running smoothly. Whether they’re hosting virtual meetings, downloading videos and music, or working from home, every family member depends on a reliable connection.

Slow speeds or outages can quickly lead to frustration, especially when everyone’s trying to be online at the same time. That’s why you’ll want to be exhaustive about your choice of internet service provider (ISP). With a plan that properly fits your family’s needs, everyone will get what they need without interruptions.

When comparing ISPs, don’t just focus on flashy ads or promotional rates. Look deeper into what really matters: coverage in your area, consistent performance, and responsive customer service. Moreover, consider talking to neighbors or checking reviews to see which providers deliver on their promises. A solid internet connection will make all the difference in keeping your family online, productive, and connected every day.

Think About How to Manage Device Use Effectively

Did you know that even the fastest internet connection can feel sluggish when everyone in the house is online simultaneously? Playing online games, downloading large files, gaming, and video conferencing all compete for bandwidth, and without proper management, your household could face slow speeds or constant buffering. The key to avoiding these frustrations lies in managing how devices are used across your network.

Start by setting some ground rules to balance usage during peak times. Scheduling high-data activities, like live streaming or cloud gaming, for off-peak hours can free up bandwidth when others need it most. Parental controls and screen-time limits are also great methods for managing younger users’ internet habits while ensuring enough capacity for work and school needs. As the family head, take charge of creating a system that works for everyone.

Equip the Household with the Right Tools

Keeping everyone online and in touch starts with having the right equipment at home. After all, even the most expensive internet plan can underperform if your tools are outdated or improperly set up. Older routers or poorly placed modems can create dead zones, weaken signals, and lead to constant frustrations for your family when you’re trying to connect.

To prevent problems like these, upgrade to a router that supports your internet plan’s speed and handles multiple devices seamlessly. If your home has large or hard-to-reach areas, you may want to invest in mesh Wi-Fi systems or extenders to eliminate weak spots. A central and elevated router placement can also significantly boost signal strength across rooms. Investments in modern, high-quality tools like these will allow family members to stay connected whether in the living room, the study, or even the backyard.

Stay Prepared for Emergencies

Connectivity issues can arise when you least expect them. Sudden power outages, service disruptions, or even equipment failure can throw your household’s online life into chaos. Without preparation, these interruptions can disrupt work, schooling, or your ability to simply stay in touch with your loved ones. Knowing that, be proactive about ensuring that your family remains connected even when the unexpected happens.

Have a backup solution in place, like a mobile hotspot, which can be a lifesaver during short-term outages. This will help you gain temporary internet access for essential tasks. For prolonged disruptions, a secondary provider with a prepaid plan can act as a good safety net for your family’s connectivity needs. You can also keep power banks handy to charge devices when electricity is out. Being prepared will help you keep everyone online and, more importantly, connected and functional during any emergency.

Your family’s ability to stay connected and in touch online will not happen by chance; it will require proaction on your part. These tips should help you ensure a seamless online experience for everyone in your household, all so that you can thrive together and stay in touch in this increasingly wired world.

*Photo of mom, inset photo of teenage girl and photo of dad from Freepik. 

Sunday, April 06, 2025

Till death do us part? Sure... But there are many deaths, too.


I had a long talk recently with a blog reader who had an abusive husband. She was asking me how to stay. I told her to leave. She was a little surprised because she said I always seemed to be determined to work on my marriage because I believe in "till death do us part." And I do! But I'm not married to an abuser. That's why I believe in divorce, too. 

Yes, I believe in marriage, and I believe in divorce. One doesn't cancel out the other at all. They both have their place in a life honestly lived. When you’re true to yourself and you make choices not based on pressure or fear, but based on truth, growth, and integrity, then you're honoring both love and self-respect. When you commit to a marriage, that means you commit to loving and respecting that person. But when that person isn't loving and respecting you, choosing to leave that marriage is love and self-respect, too.

Because I'm married to a man who loves me, cares about me, and respects me, I know I'm going to stay married until death do us part. 

There are many kinds of deaths, however. There's the death of the body. Death of the mind. Death of the heart. Death of the spirit.

We obviously all know what death of the body is. But there's also physical abuse and sexual abuse. And the children can suffer this, too. This is dangerous because you and your kids not only get hurt, you can literally die. You must leave the marriage before you're killed.

Death of the mind is disrespect. If your spouse (note that I'm using the inclusive term) isn't respecting your intelligence, your decisions, your agency, your wishes, and your will, that kills the mind. You must leave the marriage before you're convinced you're worthless.

Death of the heart is indifference. When your spouse isn't showing you love and affection and treats you with contempt, or when your spouse cheats on you, that kills the heart. You must leave the marriage before your heart turns to stone.

The death of the spirit is dismissal. When your spouse doesn't support your dreams, mocks your worth, belittles your abilities, gaslights you, or lies to you, that kills the spirit. You must leave the marriage before your spirit is broken.

Then there is also a death of shared goals. What is marriage but a partnership? I actually don't believe marriage should be rooted in love. If everyone in love got married, what happens when they fall out of love? Do they divorce? It's silly and shallow to base a profound commitment on emotions that can shift with time. 

Marriage is a partnership between two people who decide to build a shared dream together and a family. But what happens when your dreams differ and your goals change? You're no longer moving forward in the same direction. What then? 

I remember a long time ago when my now-husband-then-boyfriend was complaining about life in the Philippines. I remember it distinctly because we were on an escalator in Robinsons Galleria and our relationship was going really strong until it hit me that he intensely disliked something I loved so much and if I were to choose between love for country and love of this man, I'm choosing country. So I said, "Then leave. Migrate somewhere. But I'm staying." Luckily, he stayed. For me or for what, I don't know. All I know is he stayed, we got married, and we had our wonderful boys. But in 2022, the situation was reversed. It was right after the elections, and I was so distraught by the results. I obsessively researched how to migrate to Canada. But this time my husband said he didn't want to leave. 

So what happens when dreams, goals, or you/your spouse change? Let me share what a wise person, my former editor Sir Achilles, once told me: The great thing about being legally obliged to stay together is that you stay together until you walk in the same direction again. And I will have to agree. If you're safe, secure, respected, and appreciated, then stick it out. You'll find a way back to each other.

But what if you're not safe? What if you're not respected, appreciated, or secure? That’s when you leave, mama. 

Of course, there's no divorce in the Philippines (yet!), but I think it's necessary to save lives. There are many kinds of deaths in a marriage, and no one should have to stay in a relationship where their body, mind, heart, or spirit is slowly dying. 

Marriage should be a place where both partners thrive, grow, and build something together. When that stops happening, when the relationship becomes more destructive than supportive, it’s imperative to say goodbye. Staying for the sake of staying isn’t noble—it’s harmful. Don't ever stay where you're abused, neglected, or dying. Please go before death literally parts you.

*Photo by Mark Timberlake on Unsplash

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