Thursday, April 19, 2018

The day after our wedding

Look at what Vince found last week! Photos from the morning after our wedding!

He's showing off his wedding ring. Hindi nakita haha
My eye bags are so wow.

These were 11 years ago. I took them with my Blackberry. We were so exhausted and exhilarated. Just so giddy and happy and tired. My eye bags are huge! I swear I look younger now than I did 11 years ago haha Thank you, eye cream!

Oh, such a happy day my wedding was. But, as someone once said in a speech at another wedding a long time ago, your wedding day is not the happiest day in your life. And it's true. The next day was. And most days after that. When the children are born... Oh my dear heaven, nothing beats that day and I'm so glad I had three of those blessed days.

Sure, marriage isn't all happiness. One time, Vince and I had a massive fight and I said I wasn't happy anymore and he seethed back, "So what? I didn't marry you to make you happy. I married you till death do us part!" And I was taken aback and realized that if every couple married for happiness, then what do you do when you're not happy anymore? And in life, there is only one guarantee—it's going to be hard, sometimes so hard you can't see through the darkness and despair. That's why you vow to stick together for better and for worse. Your husband is the hand you hold as you struggle out of the muck. And we went through a lot of shit a few years ago, and we came out of it still together and stronger than ever.

I can see Vince reading that last sentence and rolling his eyes in mirth. Vince likes to tease me whenever I blog about difficulties in our marriage. He goes, "Grabe, parang maghihiwalay na tayo! Grabe ang drama!" Kainis!!! In my mind, these are real struggles. But in his mind, I guess, as long as we're together, they're nothing to be worried about. He's so stable, so secure, so sure. I love this man.

Happy anniversary, Vince! Eleven years married, 19 in love. Next year is 20 years yo! You're such a lucky guy. And I'll always be the luckiest girl.

18 comments:

  1. Awww you looked so blissful and tired (haha) and content! Ganyan yata karamihan sa newlyweds. ��

    Btw, relate ako about having a husband who teases when you talk about struggles in your marriage. Ganyan din 'yung asawa ko, ako parang bigat na bigat na tapos sa kanya hindi naman pala because he's so secure and calm. Haha! Feeling ko tuloy minsan ang OA ko. Hahy.

    Also, I'm so happy you're blogging more these days hihi!

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    1. Haha hindi ko tuloy alam kung pinapalaki lang natin yung issue. Alam mo yon? Like, part of me is, "THIS IS IMPORTANT!" and part of me is like, "Ginagawan ko lang ba ito ng issue?" Ang mahalaga is love pa rin nila tayo, diba??? =D

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    1. Yes, "congratulations" talaga ang word, no? =D Thanks!!!

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  3. Happy anniversary, Frances and Vince!!!

    I love that you blog about marriage and how it is hard work and real commitment to stay married. Not everyone sees and knows the struggle of staying married - either all happy happy or falling out of marriage na agad. It’s good that people can read about the struggles and that married couples still stay together in spite of and despite of the struggles. (Sorry anf haba ng comment)

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    1. Yes. Marriage and parenthood are truly the most wonderful things but they are not easy. It's easier to leave than to work things out (and I mean spouses leaving each other and parents abandoning their kids), but family is meant to be a forever thing. It's not always pleasant but the rewards are oh so worth it! Kapit lang!!!

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  4. Congratulations for being happily married with each other. May you both live a happier & healthier life ahead with your boys. Love you, Ms. Frances! :)
    -Lorraine Villanueva

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    1. Thank you, Lorraine! And I wish you a happy and healthy life, too! We love you, too!

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  5. This is so beautiful! Congratulations on finding each other! :) Happy anniversary!

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    1. Thank you, Krissy! Hope to see you again soon! =)

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  6. happy anniversary po sa inyo :) more years to come

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  7. Belated happy anniversary love birds. But you know what ms. Frances this line of your hubby caught me
    "So what? I didn't marry you to make you happy. I married you till death do us part!"
    Hindi ko lang alam kung anong sasabihin ko sa asawa ko oag nagsalita siya ng ganyan.sa akin hahhaa.

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  8. Awww. Naalala ko nung nabasa ko yung wedding vow ni papa Kay mama He said " Alam kong hindi kita kayang pasayahin habang buhay pero ipinapangako ko na ako ang kasama mo sa saya, hirap at lungkot."

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  9. Hahaha. I am not a fan of marriage and I can't imagine myself being married years from now keshee nemen, I feel so exhausted seeing couples who would get married but eventually, ended up falling apart. Pero pero, there were times na parang naiisip ko, ang siguro ikasal no? Then, you get to experience a wedding wherein everyone that you love would be there to witness that special day in your life. Hahaha. Omg, what do I really want? 😂😂

    Btw, cheers to another fruitful and blessed year as couples Miss Frances. 😍😍😍

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