Wednesday, October 12, 2011

My so-called glam life

This week, I got an email from a reader who demanded I stop writing about my satchels (buy one now!) and go back to writing about my glamorous life. Sweetheart, my satchels are part of my glamorous life! Because of my satchels, I can now call myself designer and entrepreneur! That's a lot cooler than the nerdy writer, right?

Sigh. The problem with blogging only about the nice parts of my life is people only see a tiny aspect of me. The so-called glamorous part and then everyone thinks I spend my days drinking champagne, marinating in the salon or the spa, shopping away, attending parties every night, la di da. Ugh, how boring. I honestly don't know why any woman would want to spend her life like that!

Most days, I don't brush my hair or put on makeup.
You know what my life is like? It starts at 5 in the morning, washing the poop off my son's butt. Then I spend the day chained to my desk, writing and editing and approving photos. I'm in meetings talking about circulation figures and ad revenues and how to meet financial targets. I'm hunched over my computer, answering inquiries about my bags, sending invoices, checking balances. At the end of the day, I blog or work on my other writing projects. And most of the time, I haven't brushed my hair at all!

Of course, every once in a while, I'll have to attend meetings with brand managers and advertising clients. I'll have to attend events and product launches. Then I'll have to blow dry my hair, slap on the makeup and put on a nice dress. But while you may think that this is fun, events aren't parties--they're business. So I don't get drunk, I don't throw my hands in the air and dance with abandon, I don't flirt. I just meet the people who can help my magazine, ask what they want from me and my magazine, then go home.
Even when I go out, I choose comfort first.

But I know, I know. That sounds so boring and familiar. You wouldn't want to read about that because it sounds a lot like your day. I guess I just find it strange that people will take my blog at face value. That what you see here is what you think my entire life is all about. There are no books here but that doesn't mean I don't read. I hardly talk about my son here (read about him on my mommy blog!) but that doesn't mean I don't think about him every minute. There's nothing here about our government, divorce, the RH Bill and gay marriage but that doesn't mean I don't have very strong opinions on those issues.

I don't talk about those things because I  confess that I am not a very agreeable person. I am highly opinionated, terribly articulate and have a bad temper. I'm confrontational. I'm reactionary. If I wrote about controversial things, then I'll get into trouble. I've already gotten into trouble actually (mostly over stuff I've said over Twitter and Facebook). So to be safe, I just keep things light and happy here.

But please don't ever think I'm all sunshine. I will continue to talk about the lovely parts of my life because I enjoy doing that but please don't demand things from me. I'm aware that I might've created some sort of illusion but I'm afraid I'm not an escape, a role model, a style icon, a success story or whatever you project on me. I'm just me, and believe it or not, I'm very much like you.


  1. Hi Frances, thank you for an honest post. I love that you blog about light stories. I read blogs to in a way "experience new things" through a different person. I wouldn't want to read about heavy stuff although that doesn't mean I don't feel strongly about them, too. And why would anyone want to feel sad and stressed reading more about those issues anyway?

    For years, I've been enjoying reading about Vito, Vince and your satchels, and whatever. Light, lovely things. I respect that you want to chronicle the happy things. "Like attracts like", right?

    White Bubbles!
    Zee :)

  2. i love the expression on Vito's face in that first picture.

    ang haba ng sinulat mo pero yun lang reaction ko, ano? haha, sorry, i'm mesmerized by Vito. He's adorable.

  3. I understand what you mean :) And if we write naman sad/human frailty stuff, ang nega naman. Catch 22 lang. :D

    I can absolutely relate when you said you're not an agreeable person {guess I'm just lucky to be sharing the same opinions on things with you}. This is why I also don't write opinionated things because I feel like I'm going to burned at the stake.

    But I don't know with your other readers but I haven't faltered from reading your blog. I find that a piece of your wisdom is always embedded in each of them. My wish is that you may find time in your packed and happy loving life to share with us a piece of your mind :)

    Miss you, F!

  4. But I love reading about your satchels!!!

  5. Natawa ako sa first photo kasi it perfectly captures the whole sentiment of this blog, but at the same time, I can see in your face somehow na you're happy and content. :)

  6. no matter what story you write for your post, i will be reading them, i have been following your post for quite sometime and enjoy reading every one of them... please continue to write what you want and i will surely be reading them =)

  7. I love this post! It's honest. Yes, we read blogposts because they're entertaining and I do fall into this trance-line blog reading marathons. But, behind the fashion, the beauty, the "fluff," we readers appreciate the nuggets of wisdom. And there's one in your every post. I like writers/bloggers who are grounded. And they're rare. So, thanks, Frances. I love reading your blog.


  8. The fact that you're a REAL person, with a real life, and real courage to write about it is exactly the reason why I fell in love with your blog. Keep it up Ms. Frances! :)

  9. THANKS!!!

    Oh my, it's such a relief knowing some of you read me for ME not for the silly stuff! =D

  10. You summed it up for me. I look so losyang throughout the day with my glasses and uncombed hair. There's just so many things to do in a day.

    We have the right to choose whichever topic we wish to blog about. Some may find it false, that we choose to write on "light" and "pretty" things. But I don't see anything wrong in doing so as long as we're true and we feel good about what we write.

    Keep writing! :)



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